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How to Find and Understand your Moon Sign

Most of us are familiar with the 12 sun signs. They’re so popular that even people who aren’t really invested in astrology know their signs. What’s more, we identify ourselves with these zodiac signs, saying things like, “I’m an Aries” or “Pisces” or whatever your sign is. But your personality is so much more complex than that, and so is astrology.

The difference between sun signs and moon signs

Sun signs are important and offer a lot of insight into your personality. However, these 12 signs are a simplified approach to astrology. That’s because they only focus on the position of the sun within the 12 zodiac signs when you were born.

But at the time of your birth, an entire universe was dancing, including the waxing and waning moon. And just as the moon influences your day-to-day life depending on its position in the sky, so, too does the moon’s position impact you on the day you were born.

And that’s where moon signs come in. These signs show the position of the moon within the 12 zodiacs at the time of your birth.

How to figure out your moon sign

It’s easy to determine your sun sign. All you need is the date and month of your birthday.

But the moon travels more quickly through the zodiac, spending two to three days in each sign before moving on to the next. So, in order to figure out your moon sign, you need to know the date, time and location of your birth.

These specifics will help you pinpoint which zodiac sign the moon was in when you were born.

What moon signs are all about

The sun sign reveals your conscious self, along with your overall personality, which you and everyone else can pretty much observe without much trouble.

As you know, a sun sign can extend for weeks. Take Aries, for example. It runs from March 21st to April 19th. And everyone born between these two dates can say, “I’m an Aries.”

However, while the sun rests in Aries during that month-long period, the moon quietly moves through each of the 12 zodiac signs.

That’s why you’ve probably noticed that even though many people all share the same sun sign and similar personality traits, they’re also all incredibly different, too.

That’s because each person has their own unique moon sign, and that moon sign plays a big role in who they are.

The moon sign represents your deeper self, your emotions, and your subconscious inner workings. Whereas the sun sign illuminates the surface, the moon sign reveals depths.

Why it’s important to know your moon sign

Even if moon signs aren’t as popular as sun signs, they’re equally important. Together, these two signs help to explain and shed light on your entire person.

For example, you may have known your sun sign for a long time. And while it’s consistent with much of your personality, it doesn’t explain everything. And there may be times when you feel in conflict and at odds with yourself.

This can be due to the tug-of-war occurring between the sun and moon signs within you. But if you don’t know what your moon sign is, you may not be able to resolve these inner battles.

That’s why knowing both your sun sign and your moon sign help you know yourself better, love yourself better and be more understanding and patient with yourself.

Moon signs can explain why you struggle in some areas, and why you thrive in others. In the end, both the sun and moon illuminate different aspects of your personality. So, it’s helpful to know and understand your moon sign.

To get you started, here’s a brief overview of each of the 12 moon signs.

Aries Moon

Ruled by Mars, this moon can be fiery, short-tempered, and with an energy that can be impatient, demanding, determined, aggressive, and strong-minded. The Aries Moon likes autonomy and enjoys the action required to solve problems.

Taurus Moon

Ruled by Venus, this moon is sensitive and caring, yet needs stability, sometimes in the form of returned love, affection and comfort. The Taurus Moon can also be taken advantage of, or become needy and possessive.

Gemini Moon

Ruled by Mercury, the Gemini Moon likes to be stimulated, and when bored, takes a mischievous turn. To avoid this, you need lots of communication and new ideas to keep you challenged and engaged.

Cancer Moon

Ruled by the Moon, the Cancer Moon is very sensitive, emotional and instinctual. To feel good, these people need to be nurtured and reassured, as they tend to fear abandonment. Easily hurt, the Cancer Moon can easily close themselves up and shut out hurtful people.

Leo Moon

Ruled by the Sun, the Leo Moon is strong, confident and has a leader’s stamina. Just as the sun is the center of our solar system, Leo Moons like to be at the center of attention, too. Glamour, excitement and the rush of chasing and hunting is what Leo Moons thrive on.

Virgo Moon

Ruled by Mercury, Virgo Moons are the most intellectual characters within the 12 moon signs. Their analytical, organized nature can make them highly critical – especially of themselves. However, they thrive when they feel like they’re helping and serving others.

Libra Moon

Ruled by Venus, Libra Moons place a lot of value on love and beauty. They avoid conflict, whenever possible, and strive to keep their environments peaceful and aesthetically pleasing.

Scorpio Moon

Ruled by Pluto, Scorpio Moons are intense individuals who prefer privacy. When they do open up, they desire honest communications. A bond formed with a Scorpio Moon is likely to be long-lasting.

Sagittarius Moon

Ruled by Jupiter, the Sagittarius Moon is influenced by Jupiter’s wisdom and expansion. Therefore, adventure, knowledge and an interest in a variety of belief systems motivate these individuals. This explains why they enjoy traveling and interacting with open-minded people, like themselves.

Capricorn Moon

Ruled by Saturn, these moons tend to be realistic and no-nonsense individuals. It’s important for these people to decompress and recharge. And a tendency to be emotionally distant and melancholy is common for the Capricorn Moon.

Aquarius Moon

Ruled by Uranus, the Aquarius Moon is marked with a (sometimes rebellious) independent streak. But these secure individuals are also innovative and can be trailblazers who enjoy the collaborative process.

Pisces Moon

Ruled by Neptune, the Pisces Moon is both deeply sensitive and empathetic. Art and spirituality are very important to these individuals. And a need for both creativity and quiet meditation helps these individuals shine.

These brief explanations are by no means complete, but they offer insight into not only the moon sign but your inner workings and emotional energy.

When you know your moon sign, you can develop a greater understanding of yourself, and also be more loving and compassionate toward yourself.

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How to Gently Kick Start your Energetic Healing

Energy surrounds us. In fact, everything – including you and I – is a manifestation of energy. And if you’re not careful, your energy can get stuck and stop flowing freely. When this happens, emotional and physical problems can show up in life.

It’s safe to say that most of us have blocked energy in our bodies, making energetic healing necessary if we want to experience greater peace and wholeness. To get you started, here are some healing practices to consider. And as always, if something resonates with you, pursue that path. Your curiosity often leads the way to exactly what you need.

  1. EFT, or Emotional Freedom Technique

When trying to manifest all the right things into life, we often skip an all-important step. You see, without first clearing away limiting beliefs and past pain, it’s difficult to manifest loving, positive experiences.

That’s why EFT is an incredibly simple and extremely powerful practice. By tapping on specific meridian points while saying positive affirmations, you can release pain and heal from past trauma so that you can truly be open to better experiences.

  1. Reiki

The word “Reiki” comes from two Japanese words. “Rei” translates to “Higher Power” and “Ki” means “life force energy.” So, Reiki describes a higher power life force energy. But what does that actually mean?

Sometimes, we just need help accessing the natural flow of energy that surrounds us, and that’s where a Reiki practitioner comes in. A Reiki practitioner serves as a channel of the universal life force and passes this energy on to your entire person – body, mind, and spirit.

This gentle practice is like a breath of fresh air and can help your body kick start its own natural healing abilities.

  1. Connect to the universal flow of energy

A Reiki session can help you gain access to the Universe’s powerful energy. But you can also do this on your own, simply by setting the intention to connect and be open to the energy that sustains us all.

You can do this by standing or sitting quietly, imagine your buttocks or feet connected to the power supply of Mother Earth and her never-ending support. Envision this energy flowing freely to you. See yourself grounded and connected. Because you truly are!

  1. Heal your root chakra

The root chakra is located at the base of the spine, and it’s associated with confidence and survival. When the root chakra is blocked or stuck, it’s difficult for energy to flow up to the higher chakras. What’s more, a blocked root chakra can lead to feelings of insecurity, fear, restlessness, and fatigue. And when fear governs your actions, it’s very difficult to live freely, openly and in good health.

You can heal your root chakra by doing any or all of the following practices:

  • Meditate on the root chakra mantra, Lam.
  • Surrounded yourself with Mother Nature. And if you can’t make it to the park or forest, take conscious steps as you walk around your home, or to and from work. Plant each foot firmly on the ground and feel yourself taking up space and being welcomed by the world.
  • Strengthen and open your root chakra by imagining a glowing red orb at the base of the spine, and know that you are supported, loved and important.
  1. Tap into the power of the New Moon

Each month, the new moon is bursting with potent energy and it can actually supercharge whatever intentions you bring to your new moon ritual. That’s because there’s a parallel between your life and the moon’s cycle.

The new moon is an empty sphere, ready to be colored in with the brightness of the coming full moon. And it can help you clear the slate in your own life, and create an open, fertile space where you plant new intentions and help them flourish.

  1. Begin a yoga practice

Stress and worry can make us tighten up and close off our physical bodies. But this blocks the flow of energy and can actually increase feelings of powerlessness and panic. But when you practice yoga, you can become actively aware of the energetic life force running through your body.

By focusing on your posture and your breath, you can release energy to move more freely – just as it should. The following 5 yoga postures are available to beginners and advanced yogi’s alike:

  • Forward Fold: to soothe the nervous system
  • Warrior 2: When you hold your arms out right and left, think of energy shooting from one end to the other. It only can when you allow it to!
  • Cat-Cow: When kneeling on hands and knees, remember to keep your neck relaxed and straight to encourage an easy flow of energy from the crown of your head to your tailbone.
  • Mountain pose: When standing with feet planted firmly on the ground, think of drawing energy up from the ground to support you and your every breath.
  • No matter what posture you do, also bring your breath – it brings life to every posture, and it helps to release and break down energetic blocks.

You can kickstart your energetic healing just as you are today. And as you can see, simple practices can make huge impacts on your healing journey.

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Feeling stuck and indecisive? 11 tips to get moving again

When we’re feeling stuck and indecisive, we don’t know where to go or what to do. And in the end, we don’t do very much. Strangely enough, this inaction is very draining and takes up a lot of our mental energy. So, the next time you want to get un-stuck, follow these 11 tips and get clear again.

  1. Listen to your feelings

Neurologist and author, Antonio Damasio, has discovered that when the area of the brain, which processes emotions, is damaged, we lose our ability to make decisions. That’s how important our emotions are when forming decisions! So, when you’re not sure which way to turn, pay attention to your emotions. Often, they point us in the right direction.

And if you can’t figure out what your emotions are telling you, make a decision and then observe how you feel. Feelings don’t lie!

  1. Just start

Sometimes, we have a hard time getting started because we think we don’t have anything to work with. If that’s the case, give yourself something to work with – and it can be anything! A rough draft, an outline, or even scribbles on a napkin.

  1. Forgive yourself and be compassionate

You can be your own worst enemy and hold yourself back more than anyone or anything else. This can lead to self-sabotage and shame. Instead, try to be very gentle and compassionate and forgive yourself. It’s easier to move forward when you feel loved – even by yourself.

  1. Believe in yourself

Internationally-acclaimed yoga teacher, Kathryn Budig, has a strong devotion to Artemis, the Greek goddess of the hunt. You can follow Budig’s example by incorporating her prayer into your daily mantra: “Artemis, huntress of the moon, make my aim true.”

This practice could strengthen your self-belief, self-confidence and inner resolve.

  1. Done is better than perfect

Sometimes, our need for perfection prevents us from moving forward. But the truth is, perfection isn’t possible, so try not to get too hooked up on it. In fact, done is better than perfect. So, be proud of what you finish, even if it’s not “perfect” because guess what? It would never have been anyways!

  1. Stop comparing

Do you think other people are better, smarter, prettier, more worthy and more eligible than you are? If so, you won’t give your dreams the energy and focus they need to come to fruition.

What’s worse, you won’t reach for your dreams anymore. So, stop comparing yourself. This might mean taking a social media break. It might also mean cultivating a gratitude practice. Both of these things can help clear your mind and give you more mental space.

  1. Go where you’re curious

It’s easy to get stuck when we feel that we “should” be doing something. But why not step away from this sense of obligation and move toward pleasure instead? Why not migrate to where you’re curious? The way out of indecisiveness can sometimes be found in our own curiosity.

  1. Ask the universe for a sign

Why struggle alone? The universe is loving and generous, and it’s at your disposal. You just have to ask for help. Pam Grout shares in her book, E-Squared, that the famous Bible verse, “Ask, and you will receive. Seek, and you will find,” isn’t a timid and uncertain request.

Instead, it’s how you claim what’s rightfully yours. So, don’t be afraid to tap into the abundant universe.

  1. Set the intention to find clarity

When you’re lost in the woods, you might not know where to go. But one thing’s for sure: you want to get out! When you’re stuck and indecisive, it’s hard to know what you want, but at least you know that you want clarity.

So, every day, set an intention to be open and receptive to answers and inspiration, no matter what form they take. Doing this can make you feel better without necessarily having a clear direction.

  1. Give yourself positive reinforcement

It’s hard to build momentum – especially if you’ve been stuck for a long time. So, whenever you make even a little progress, celebrate! You can celebrate by praising yourself, by indulging in a nice treat, or by taking a little break. When your brain is rewarded, it will be more inclined to get back to work when you’re ready.

  1. Go somewhere new

Our minds can get stuck in a rut when we’re doing the same thing over and over again. A great way to shake things up is to go somewhere new. Take a new route on your commute. Visit a different part of town. Go away on the weekend. Relocate for as long or for as little as you want. By doing so, you help your brain create new neural pathways. These new pathways make it easier for you to develop fresh ideas and become more creative.

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How to Prepare for and Utilize the Energy of the New Moon

Do you want to clear the slate and start fresh? Every month, the new moon gives us a perfect opportunity to set new beginnings. With simple rituals and intentional mindsets, you can prepare for and utilize the energy of the new moon to manifest your goals and dreams.

Why is the New Moon powerful?

Compared to the Full Moon, the New Moon is hidden from us. But don’t underestimate her power. The energy of the new moon is empty and open, and even though it’s a good idea to continually set your own intentions, why not tap turn to the New Moon for some help? It can powerfully supercharge your intentions.

Preparing for the New Moon

The New Moon gently graces the sky every month. You can find out when the next one is with an easy online moon calendar.

  • Gather your sacred tools

You might be into divination decks, crystals, gemstones, incense, sage smudging, candles or journaling. Whatever your sacred supplies are, gather them up for your New Moon rituals.

  • Cleanse

The day of the New Moon, focus on cleansing the negativity out of your life. You can clean your physical space with a sage smudge stick or incense.

It’s also a good time to detox and nourish your physical body with whole, unprocessed foods, too. And if you practice yoga or meditation, use these mindful activities to cleanse your mind, body, and spirit as well.

Why all this cleansing? Think of it this way: before you can serve a special dinner, you need clean plates to serve it on. It wouldn’t make much sense to prepare a special dinner and put it on a dirty plate, right?

The same thing applies to the New Moon. In order to tap into this power, you have to make a clean space for it. Only then, can it work its magic.

Be grateful during the New Moon

Most of us turn toward the New Moon to improve our lives. This suggests that we’re not completely satisfied with our current life situation. But even if that’s the case, work to cultivate a grateful mindset anyway. Gratitude is the highest vibrational energy available to us.

And when we stand in the fertile space of the New Moon with gratitude, it’s easier for us to attract and manifest better experiences for ourselves.

Write a gratitude list during the New Moon

It might seem overly simplified, but writing a gratitude list is probably one of the best ways to cultivate gratitude. At first, you might feel like you’re coming up empty.

But just start by being grateful for the simplest, smallest things, and you’ll find that the gratitude will just grow. That’s the wonderful thing about gratitude – it’s contagious and starts a domino effect.

By cultivating gratitude for the present moment, you help to welcome the experiences that haven’t manifested yet.

What to do after the New Moon

Now that you know how to prep for the New Moon, here’s what you should do once it’s occurred:

  • Write your intentions

Just after the New Moon happens, write your intentions down on paper. And as you write them, be sure that they feel right to you.

For example, you might write an intention that sounds good on paper, but if it doesn’t feel good, or if it makes you feel uneasy or restless, reconsider your intention.

This might mean rewording your intention or letting it go altogether. Try to trust your inner wisdom and intuition here.

  • Be open to the New Moon’s power

The New Moon can supercharge your intentions. And while it’s important to be specific and sincere about your intentions, it’s also important to remain open and ready for what comes.

For example, you might want a pay raise because you don’t feel valued at work. Now, you might end up with that raise, but you might also end up with an even better career opportunity.

It might be a change you weren’t expecting, but the New Moon can be very generous!

The New Moon is empty and open before it fills in all of its blank spaces. And when you take time to prepare for the New Moon with mindful rituals and practices, you can create a blank, fertile space where you can manifest positive and joy-filled experiences for yourself, too.

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How to Prepare For and Create Healing During a Full Moon

People have been looking to the moon and tapping into its power for millennia. That’s because the energy of the moon is incredibly powerful. With some simple preparation, you too, can access the moon’s power and begin to create healing in your life.

Why is a full moon so powerful?

Imagine holding a magnifying glass up to a small object. It appears much larger, doesn’t it? Now, imagine that the full moon is like that magnifying glass. When it appears every month, it magnifies whatever energy is inside you.

Therefore, if you’re experiencing positive energy and emotions, the full moon will increase them abundantly. On the flip side, if your life is full of negative emotions and energy, you can really begin to feel, well, like a lunatic.

Negative energy can manifest as scarcity mindsets, feelings of lack, emotional blocks, grudges and relationship problems. These states of being are already difficult, with or without the moon. So, you can only imagine how a full moon can leave many people feeling overwhelmed.

Therefore, it’s important to do some mindful preparation before a full moon. Then, you can come away feeling better rather than worse.

Basic preparation tips for the next full moon

The following steps will help you make the most out of each and every full moon and create space for healing to occur.

  • First, find out when the next full moon is with helpful sites like this one and click on the moon phases calendar. That way, you’re not caught unaware!
  • Pause for the cause. If you want to discuss something that’s upsetting you, leave it on the back burner until after the full moon. As we already know, the moon’s energy intensifies the energy you’re already feeling, including negativity. So, if you try to tackle these difficult emotions during a full moon, the situation could get messier.
  • Cultivate as many positive thoughts as you can. You can do this with a gratitude journal, a gratitude walk or simply say thank you again and again. Remember, whatever you experience during the full moon is magnified. It’s like buy-one-get-one-free, and who doesn’t want the uplifting experience of gratitude in their lives?
  • If you have a vision board showcasing your dreams or goals, add a little more focus on it when the full moon fills the sky.

How to purge negativity from your life during a full moon

Apart from supporting your positive emotions and kickstarting your goals, you can also remove darkness and negativity, too.

So, if you’re fed up with all the disruptive energies wreaking havoc in your life, a full moon is the perfect time to clear the slate and make room for a more positive life experience.

To assist the moon in purging negative energies, create a sacred space. If the weather permits, you can set up a small altar outside. Otherwise, arrange one in your home. It can be as simple as a table, countertop or shelf. The important thing is that it’s set aside for this sacred purpose.

You can use many different objects to adorn your altar, such as healing stones, crystals, candles, fresh flowers, bowls of water, as well as sacred images or objects.

Before the evening of the full moon, take time to identify any negative elements in your life. Are you struggling with certain people, job concerns, your body image, self-love, or anything else?

Whatever it is, create a list of everything that’s clouding your life. Then, write each problem down on separate pieces of paper. You’ll probably end up with a little pile of big problems you’re ready to release or change in your life.

During the night of the full moon, clear the energy of your altar with a prayer, smudging, or by asking the spirits and angels to join your purging ceremony. Then, take each slip of paper and read it out loud.

Imagine that the moon is a sentient being, who listens to each and every slip of paper you read. After you read each one, make a bold command: “Be gone!” with lots of strength, resolve and confidence.

Remember, the moon magnifies whatever you focus on. So, even if this ritual seems small and insignificant, the moon has your back and will add a lot of power to your little actions.

To close the ceremony, burn the slips of paper and offer a prayer of gratitude to the healing energies you’ve just ushered into your life.

Even if you wouldn’t consider yourself spiritual or well-versed in astrology, you can benefit from and find healing during a full moon. Share your full moon experiences in the comments below!

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Why You Should Love Your Soulmates and Let Them Go

Do you think you have to search long and hard for your soul mate? Most people do. And that’s because we tend to believe that once we’ve found our soulmate, we don’t have to look for anyone else ever again.

But this belief can make life harder and more painful for both you and your soulmate. Plus, it interferes with your soul mate’s true role and purpose in your life.

You Don’t Have to Find Your Soulmate

If you’re single, or if you feel like you’re settling for less in your relationship, you may be on the hunt for your soulmate. But when it comes to these precious individuals, you usually don’t have to actively look for them.

When the timing is right, you and your soulmate will naturally attract each other. And you can help this happen, not by searching for him or her online, or in every café and grocery store, but by working on being yourself.

You can do this by honoring your true nature and creating a positive energy. When you’re authentic and living true to your nature, you create the perfect setting for your soulmate to enter into.

You May Have More Than One Soulmate

Many people believe that you have one – and only one – soulmate. Unfortunately, this kind of mindset puts a lot of unnecessary pressure on both you and your soulmate.

Usually, people want a life partner to share their earthly life with. But soulmates are far more than life partners or romantic interests. What’s more, you can have many soulmates throughout your lifetime. And no matter when they show up in your life, they always play a very important role: you can think of them as unofficial spiritual teachers.

Technically, a soulmate can be anyone … your friend, family member, boss. A soulmate is simply someone you have lived another lifetime with; they are a part of your spiritual soulmate family. So, even if someone you meet is for sure your soulmate, it does not necessarily mean they are meant to be a romantic partner. However, it is highly likely that person is in your life for a reason.

Your Soulmate Fulfills a Spiritual Purpose in Your Life

A soulmate’s job is to help you move toward a higher state of consciousness. They do this by awakening us and challenging us to evolve spiritually. That means that some soulmates will have to teach you tough lessons before you both separate in your earthly journeys.

For example, if your energy is stuck or blocked, or you’re not living life to the fullest, your soulmate may come to you at this critical time and push you out of your comfort zone.

Soulmates play such an important role in our life, and because of this, they can be a part of a very emotionally-charged relationship. And whenever you experience so much with another person, it’s easy to believe that you’re meant to stay together forever.

But soulmates enter your life depending on your deepest spiritual needs. And knowing that can make it easier for you to release them once they’ve fulfilled their purpose in your life.

How to Recognize Your Soulmate

Recognizing a soulmate happens on the level of your deepest, innermost knowing. It’s a knowing that goes beyond your intellect or logic. You’ll feel a connection that’s perfectly clear, yet completely unexplainable to you. If you feel you do need assistance then the angels can help you.

For example, you may experience flashbacks as if you’ve spent time together. (And perhaps you have in another life.) You can also feel very in sync with your soulmate, and intuitively know what they’re thinking or feeling. You may even anticipate their needs or finish each other sentences. In short, you just get each other.

Love and Cherish Your Soulmates

Soulmates can feel like our Earthly guardian angels who make us feel incredibly safe, secure and protected. With them, we can be open and vulnerable. We can be ourselves. This is a rare gift in our fleeting world, and nobody wants to lose something so precious.

So, even if you love your soulmate deeply, try to recognize that this love shouldn’t be what keeps you together once your roles have been fulfilled.

This is how you can become too attached to your soulmate, and end up claiming them for yourself. But they’re not ours to keep, and keeping them can add a lot of unnecessary pain to your life.

Instead, we should cherish and love them without having any ownership or attachment to them. We should also thank them for the sacred role they’ve performed. Without them, we might never experience true love or evolve spiritually.

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How to Set Boundaries

Boundaries are very important. You must know what you are okay with and what you are not okay with. Without boundaries, you are setting yourself up for disappointment and pain. If you don’t want people to take you for granted, you have to know where your boundaries begin and end. It takes skill to develop and preserve your boundaries.

No matter how hard it has been for you to stick to your boundaries, take heart and trust that it is a skill you can easily develop.

Listen to Your Heart

You can’t set your boundaries without knowing who you are. Knowing yourself implies that you have to identify what matters to you and what your values are. It helps to develop a deeply introspective approach in general. Analyze what feels good to your heart and what doesn’t. Making your feelings an emotional thermostat for analyzing your boundaries is a good place, to begin with. Generally, anything that doesn’t feel good to your heart should give you the cue that the other person’s actions are violating your boundaries. Don’t fool yourself by trying to justify their actions if the little voice inside your heart tells you that something is amiss. Remember that the wisdom of the heart is always far superior to the logic of the mind. Give your heart more credit for everything it knows.

You have to identify and set your boundaries in all key aspects of life. This means that you must know what your physical, emotional, mental and spiritual limits are. Identifying and understanding your boundaries is already the job half done. As ironic as it might seem, most people go through their entire life not really knowing what their boundaries are. They constantly express great disappointment when someone says something or acts in a way that is not really acceptable to them. They also make the mistake of seeing it only as a one-time instance, instead of understanding that the words and actions of the other person were actually a violation of their personal boundaries. Therefore, I’d advise that while determining your boundaries, you go back to all those instances in your life when you felt deeply saddened and hurt by the words or actions of another person. Ask yourself why it hurt you so much and are you willing to let something like this happen ever again?

Set Your Boundaries

You have to make sure that others know what your boundaries are. Sometimes this can be achieved by being subtle and indirect. However, other times it may call for a far more direct approach. Usually, when two people are similar in their communication style and socio-cultural background, a subtle approach can be quite effective. On the other hand, if people hail from different socio-cultural backgrounds and have distinctly different communication styles, then a direct approach is the best.

If anything happens that makes you uneasy, you must make sure that the other person knows how you feel about their behavior. Of course, this is not always easy. There are risks involved as it can change the dynamics of your relationship with the other person.  However, this is where it becomes very important to ask yourself what you are willing to live with and what you are not willing to take on your stride.

The best way to communicate how you feel about something is by discussing your feelings without any obvious finger pointing. This allows the other person to hear you out without getting defensive. For instance, if you feel that your partner does not allow you enough space to truly be yourself, convey it in a way that doesn’t make them instantly defensive. So, instead of, “You don’t let me be myself,” you can say, “I know how much you love me. I also understand that you always want the best for me. However, sometimes I find it very hard to completely be myself with you. I know it’s not your intention but sometimes I feel as if you don’t fully accept me for who I am.”

When you bestow sincere appreciation and thank the other person for the good things they are doing, it instantly puts them at ease. Besides, when you talk about your feelings without any blame, it allows them to truly listen to you without getting defensive.

Of course, setting boundaries is no easy task. You will have to deal with a lot of difficult emotions that might come up while you are trying to enforce your boundaries. Don’t forget that nothing worthwhile is ever easy. You have to exercise patience and constant self-awareness. Choosing to stick to your ethics and personal beliefs is an act of self-respect.

Love Yourself First

You can’t give to others what you don’t have for yourself. If you don’t love yourself, then you can’t fully love another person either. You are your greatest responsibility. Looking after your needs and providing for yourself is not an act of selfishness but one of self-care. Give yourself room to be yourself. Stay assertive when communicating about your boundaries to others.

It might take the time to identify and set your boundaries. Start small but remain steady.

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