Enrich Your Self-Love Practice Using Tarot Cards

Self-love is essential, but sometimes it’s easier said than done. For some people, self-love is an ongoing and arduous journey. And any support we can get in the self-love department is welcome.

One of the ways you can enrich your self-love practice is by using tarot cards. While both self-love and tarot are popular topics, you don’t usually see them together. But they should be. Tarot cards can deepen your self-love, and here are three simple, yet healing, tarot practices for your own self-love journey

Love starts with you

We all want to be loved. However, we usually expect this love to come from other people, and we forget that love starts with us. Of course, we should love one another, but when we think love always has to come from outside of ourselves, our understanding of love gets skewed.

For example, if you think you can only receive love from other people, you may think love is conditional and hard to get. What’s more, you may think that you aren’t worthy or deserving of love.

But if you believe that love starts with you, you believe that you don’t need to earn love. You give yourself love because you’re already worthy – just by being.

Another all-important reason why love needs to start with you is that how you love yourself is actually a silent cue to others about how they should love you. According to the Law of Attraction, where focus goes, energy flows.

Therefore, if you don’t give yourself love, you attract this lack of love from others. Instead of love, you attract disrespect, being taken advantage of, toxic relationship patterns and even abuse.

So, the first reason why love starts with you is that it’s your most precious responsibility to yourself. Secondly, it teaches others how to behave towards you.

Self-love creates a beautiful experience for you and everyone else in your life. But it’s easier said than done, and Tarot cards can help make it easier to love yourself.

7-day self-love tarot practice

The first way to use your Tarot is to simply ask it what you love the most about yourself. Then, draw one card. This Tarot card isn’t your answer. Instead, it’s a gentle prompt to help you reflect on yourself and answer your own question.

Spend a few minutes meditating on the card, and then journal everything you love about yourself for five to 10 minutes.

You might feel like you’re blowing your own horn. Or, you might have a hard time coming up with things you love about yourself. But don’t give up. Commit to this journaling practice and jot down whatever the card is that inspires you to write.

For example, Strength, one of the Major Arcana cards, represents strength, courage, and compassion. If you draw this card, think of the ways you are strong, courageous and compassionate, both with yourself and others. Then, love and appreciate these qualities about yourself.

Get inspired by self-loving cards

The first self-love practice involves drawing a card at random and allowing it to inspire you. But you can also be a little more intentional with your self-love tarot ritual.

In this practice, select the most self-loving and nurturing cards. Then, meditate on them and allow them to inspire you to love yourself. Consider including these cards in your self-love spread.

The Star

Rich in meaning, the Star shows a woman holding in each hand a bowl of water. The right hand (consciousness) pours water into the dry land. Her left hand (the subconscious) pours water into lush land. The Star reminds you that you have the ability to renew and find your purpose.

If you look closer, one foot dips into the water, representing her ability to listen to her intuition. Her other foot is solidly planted on the ground, showing her common sense. The Star encourages you to have faith in yourself.

The Empress

A symbol of fertility, the Empress draws on the fecund energy of Mother Earth to rejuvenate and nurture herself.

The Empress can help you recognize your own femininity and beauty, and also remind you of your own abundant nature and ability to create.

Temperance

Sometimes life gets the better of us, and we live in one extreme or another. We fall out of alignment, and things fall to the wayside. When it’s time to get back on the bandwagon, turn to Temperance.

With one foot stepping on the rocks and the other dipping into the water, she reminds us of the importance of being both grounded and going with the flow.

She represents moderation and balance. But perhaps more importantly: patience, which is a quality we need when we’ve disappointed ourselves and need to start over.

The High Priestess

The world is a busy and distracted place, and it’s easy to feel lost and wayward. We lose touch with ourselves and our inner knowing, feeling unfulfilled, depleted and disappointed with life.

The High Priestess is a silent strength encouraging us to turn away from the material world and turn our gaze inwards. What does your divine energy say? What is your intuition telling you?

Ace of Cups

In this card, your subconscious mind is represented by the cup. The cup is overflowing with your emotions and intuitive flow. Hovering above the cup is a dove, reminding us that Divine love passes through our subconscious mind to conscious awareness.

When reversed, the Ace of Cups represents self-love and repressed emotions and maybe a helpful card when self-love feels inaccessible or blocked.

The Queen of Cups

This introspective queen sits on the water’s edge, symbolizing emotion, spirit, and feeling, and she encourages you to come to the water’s edge, too. Here, the quiet allows you to honor your emotions, which originate from deep within you.

When reversed, this card suggests emotional insecurity or even an unhealthy dynamic of co-dependency. So, when you need to strengthen your emotional security, look to the Queen of Cups.

Remember, you have the ability to become more attuned to your emotions and what they’re telling you, and ultimately, to love yourself.

Tarot helps you become more self-aware

The first self-love practice uses tarot cards to inspire you to praise yourself for your beautiful qualities. The second practice instead gives you the opportunity to draw strength and inspiration from loving and nurturing cards.

This final self-love practice is an opportunity to increase your self-awareness. This, in turn, allows you to grow in love with yourself.

First, become centered and ask the Tarot deck a specific question. Here are some questions you can ask:

  • Why am I feeling _______?
  • What did this situation or this person make me feel upset?
  • What do I need to navigate this situation?
  • What would a friend advise me to do in this situation?
  • What do I need in order to heal _________?

Once you have your question, ask your Tarot deck. Then, shuffle the deck and draw one card.  Tarot cards are wonderful tools to trigger our intuition. So, instead of giving you an answer, the Tarot card will guide you to listen to your intuition and your own inner knowing.

Very often, you already have the answers within you, but we’re not sure where to look. Or, we’re not sure which voice is our intuition and which one is our ego (or, our fear-based mindset).

With the Tarot to guide you and point you in the right direction, you can decipher the voice of your intuition and inner knowing, and feel brave enough to listen to it. And with greater self-awareness, you can increase your self-love, too.

Tarot is a nurturing and gentle way to practice self-love. Whether you draw your strength and inspiration from The Star, The Empress or the quiet Queen of Cups, each one is there to support you in your own self-love journey.

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How to Make Your Zodiac and Moon Signs Work for You

Zodiac and moon signs are a trendy topic. You can pick up just about any newspaper or magazine, and find a horoscope for your viewing pleasure. There are even more astrological resources available online.

And on the one hand, it’s wonderful that astrology is so widely accepted, but its popularity has also led to a lot of overreaching generalizations and vague information – information that we nonetheless accept as true.

Unfortunately, this isn’t the best way to use astrology. In fact, when you use astrology in this way, you limit yourself and make it more difficult to live an authentic life.

Astrology completes our narrative

People are narrative beings, and we like to explain our lives within the context of a bigger story. As it turns out, astrology provides the perfect solution for this inherent need.

After all, we live in a vast universe, where powerful forces surround and influence us. Astrology is one way to situate ourselves within this greater whole, and to give meaning to everyday living – even the moments that seem utterly meaningless. Astrology gives us a strong sense of assurance and connection.

However, it’s possible to take this cosmic significance too far. If left unchecked, it can lead to fatalism. That is when we think our fate and future is out of our control, and that what happens is a result of the stars and planets above us, rather than our actions and decisions here below.

In short, when we use astrology like this, it can create a limiting narrative.

Astrology is more complex than a zodiac sign

Back at the beginning of the 20th century, sun sign horoscopes were introduced into newspapers to increase sales. However, this has done a great disservice to astrology by whittling down an intricate and involved study into a couple sentences about each sun sign.

For this reason, many people know their zodiac (sun) sign even if they’re not into astrology, but there is so much more to astrology than the sun sign.

Your birth chart, for example, lays out the exact location of the sun, moon and planets, and their relationship with one another, at the exact time and location of your birth.

Together, all of this information is deeply meaningful and relevant. When analyzed and decoded as a complete whole, it helps to explain the many facets of your personality, including how you think and feel, what your strengths and weaknesses are, and things you are likely to enjoy or not.

However, what often happens is people don’t know and/or understand their birth charts. Instead, they focus on their zodiac sign, or even worse, only one or two key aspects of their sign.

For example, have you ever heard someone say the following statements before – yourself included?

“I’m like this because I’m a (insert Zodiac sign).”

“I’m such a Virgo.”

“I’m a Libra, so I’m just bad at making decisions.”

“I’m impatient because I’m a Sagittarius.”

There are several reasons why this sort of relationship with your zodiac sign can set you back rather than forward.

3 ways astrology can create problems in life

  1. Not taking personal responsibility for your life

Without a cultivated understanding of your horoscope, you end up with a vague and general narrative – something that could apply to anyone.

What’s more, we can cherry-pick certain aspects of the zodiac, keeping things that support what you believe, and tossing what doesn’t. In some cases, we end up using our zodiac sign as an excuse to not take responsibility.

  1. Matching your zodiac sign

If you believe you need to match your sign, you may censor your true self, or stop living authentically. When we believe we’re one specific sign, we think we need to fit that zodiac. As a result, we get stuck in a sign and cling to an identity that may not be accurate, instead of getting to know the truth of who we really are.

  1. Giving your horoscope too much power

Many people rely on zodiac signs to figure out what yoga poses to do, who to date, or even how to relax. Now, that’s not to say there isn’t helpful guidance in information like this.

However, it’s also easy to form prejudices and then project pre-existing assumptions and characteristics onto other people or even yourself. In short, we develop cognitive bias and see traits we’ve been primed to see, rather than what’s really there.

So, how can you make your zodiac and moon signs work for you? How can you make your entire horoscope a useful tool for authentic living? Let’s find out.

Astrology is a tool for timing

According to the professional astrologers, Ophira and Tali Edut, who are also known as the Astro Twins, “Astrology uses mathematical angles and is based on the time, date, and place of a birth or an event. It measures things down to the second!”

And because astrology is so precise, the Astro Twins believe it can be “An amazing tool for timing. For example, some periods are good for taking action around career or love, while other cycles are better times to do inner work, or take that steady paycheck.”

You can compare astrology to a weather forecast. For example, you may have a plan, but when you check the forecast and see that it’s going to rain, you get to choose how to continue. It’s similar to horoscopes.

For example, you may have a project or a life goal you want to pursue. Then, when you check your horoscope, you understand how the powerful universe is behaving and how you can use this energy in your favor. Rev. Colleen Lemma has weekly and monthly Angel Astrology videos that help to see the positive side of your birth chart.

Take the Void of Course Moon or Mercury Retrograde as two examples.

The Void of Course Moon (VOC Moon) lasts for a few minutes or even for a full day, and it occurs every couple of days. During this time, it’s a good idea to avoid starting or finishing major projects.

That’s because things may not go according to plans, or they just don’t work out as they’re supposed to. Instead (and if possible) use this time to continue researching and doing inner work. Once the VOC moon has passed, you can start or end big projects.

Mercury Retrograde doesn’t happen as frequently, however, it’s much more popular than VOC moons. During this time, communications and ideas tend to go astray.

But this doesn’t mean we need to stop communicating completely. Instead, knowing when mercury is in retrograde reminds you to be more clear. It also encourages us to be more patient and compassionate both with ourselves and with others.

Astrology as a self-discovery tool

Together, your sun sign, moon sign, ascending sign and the position of personal planets paint a beautiful image of you, with intricacy, shading, and nuances.

When you rely only on your Zodiac sign, you’re truly selling yourself short. For this reason, it’s a great idea to get a complete birth chart or even meet with a professional astrologer.

Knowing where the stars and planets were at the time of your birth can help affirm what you already know about yourself, and it can also explain different areas of your personality that you haven’t fully accepted yet.

As the Astro Twins affirm, “People have tons of free will, and it’s just about working with the energy of the planets, rather than against them. You’re never doomed.”

That’s because as powerful as stars are, they don’t force. They favor. So, they’ll indicate what your potential is, or what you can aim for, but they’re never intended to make you feel like a victim in your own life or to keep you stuck all because you’re a _______ (insert Zodiac sign).

Astrology helps you get into alignment

Obstetrician and gynecologist, Dr. Christine Northrup, M.D. is a women’s health expert and New York Times bestselling author of “Women’s Bodies, Women’s Wisdom.” And yes, Dr. Northrup gives credence to astrology.

She teaches that “Astrology is about aligning with the forces that rule the moon, the tides, and the turning of the planets, and then finding your unique place within this system based on how the planets were lined up at the moment of your birth.”

The universe is already in alignment, moving in perfect synchrony – like a perfectly choreographed dance. We don’t have to watch and witness this dance. Stars and planets are not so condescending.

We, too, live in this big and beautiful world – this has been true from the moment we were born – a moment when the planets and stars were all in a very specific position.

When we understand our entire horoscope, we know our position within this dance, too. We also know the possible steps to take so we can move in graceful alignment both with our true nature and with the stars and planets.

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A Spiritual Guide after Someone Commits Suicide

After someone commits suicide, the people left behind face incredible challenges. Along with feeling immense grief, they can feel guilty for not being able to prevent the suicide. Feelings of anger and confusion are compounded by the intense fear and worry about the loved one’s soul: what will happen to them?

It’s easy to feel completely helpless when someone commits suicide. But did you know you can support the soul of someone who ends their earth experience?

This spiritual guide can help both you and the soul of someone who commits suicide.

Why it’s important to not get stuck in the past

Suicide prevention is an important and necessary topic. However, suicide prevention is an irrelevant discussion when someone commits suicide. When we focus on prevention, we get stuck in the past, and that’s a dangerous trap because:

  • We feel guilty
  • We feel regret
  • Our thoughts focus on “I should have…” and “If only I would have…”

These are all natural responses after a suicide, but none of them help us – or the loved one’s soul – to heal and move forward. Instead, they can actually increase the soul’s suffering after suicide.

This is especially true if we remember that it can be difficult for someone to cross over after ending their earth experience.

Why is it difficult for souls to cross over after suicide?

After a suicide, the individual spirit doesn’t always cross over into love and light right away. Sometimes, they linger near earth, and some may even attend their own funeral.

Here are some reasons why souls may linger near earth after ending their earth experience.

They feel shock

Even though many commit suicide to seek relief from suffering, they don’t always find it after death. Suicide isn’t just a shock for the people they leave behind.

It can be a shock for these souls, too. They may not feel comfortable in the next realm of experience, and for this reason, they may want to stay near earth until they can accept their decision.

They feel regret

When we are alive in our physical bodies, we have responsibilities toward others. These responsibilities don’t go away when we leave the earthly experience. They just change, and souls who choose suicide become aware of this.

They may not be able to forgive themselves for the choice they made. In fact, many regret it immediately, only to realize it’s too late to come back. For this reason, they may be very hard on themselves and level some pretty harsh judgment on themselves.

They are stuck in the negative energy

After death, these souls can experience negative energy like angry, embarrassed, guilty and even fear. This can be especially true for people who don’t believe in a higher energy or the after lie.

Often, they are stuck until they can clear away their negative energy and thoughts. But don’t worry, they are never alone – angels and spirit guides are always there to care for them.

They have lessons to learn

The souls of people who end their earthly experience may have unfinished business. For some, this means giving their loved ones messages. Higher energy beings may also need to help them grow in love and learn the necessary lessons before they cross over.

These are some of the common reasons why it’s hard for souls to cross over into love and light. So, one of the most important things we can do to support someone who commits suicide is to help them cross over.

How to help someone cross over after suicide

Souls after suicide often need your love and support more than ever before. Therefore, even though you are grieving, confused and shocked at their death, remember that they may still be suffering and that you can play a big role in lifting their suffering.

And something beautiful to consider is that in helping them, you can also lift your own feelings of sorrow and grief.

Reassure them that you’re okay

They may feel guilty for hurting you and leaving you behind. Even in suicide notes, individuals often apologize for what they’re about to do, and that they never intended to hurt you. So, if you feel abandoned, let them know that you will be okay.

Forgive them

You may be angry at them for leaving you. But try to remember that this negative energy won’t serve you or them. By forgiving and reassuring them, you can ease their guilt, and give them permission to cross over.

Tell them you still love them

Those who choose suicide may have struggled with self-love and self-acceptance during their earthly life. These struggles don’t disappear after suicide.

Therefore, let them know you love and care for them. Reassure them that you want them to experience love and peace and that it’s okay for them to cross over and finally experience the love and peace they’ve been searching for.

Remind them that love is waiting for them

Old belief systems would have us believe that someone who commits suicide faces damnation and judgment. However, this is not the experience of those who end their earthly life experience.

Someone who commits suicide may feel guilty and ashamed of what they did. They can also be afraid to cross over – not sure of what they’ll find there. You can remind them that love – and only love – is waiting for them.

Communicate with your loved one

When someone ends his or her earthly experience, it’s easy to think they’re gone for good. However, we are all deathless beings of love and light, and our physical bodies are only one phase of our existence. Even though they end their earthly experience, this doesn’t mean they are gone for good.

So, if you have something you want to say, don’t be afraid to speak to them. This can be a great source of relief for both you and the soul.

Here’s a review of how you can help someone cross over into love and light after suicide:

  • Reassure them that you’re okay
  • Let them know it’s okay to cross over
  • Forgive them and let them know they can forgive themselves, too
  • Tell them you (and many other people) still love them
  • Reassure them that love is waiting for them
  • Remind them to love themselves
  • Communicate with them
  • Ask angels and guides for support

It is impossible for us to know the suffering someone experiences before they commit suicide. And although it is a final decision to end their earthly experience, their existence doesn’t end with suicide.

Instead, they continue on their path toward love and light. And you can play a very important role in helping them cross over into this love and light.

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How to Create Greater Alignment with Yourself and Others with Lavender Gems

Alignment. It’s the spiritual version of having all your ducks in a row. And it feels great: you feel alive, energized and centered. But for many individuals, alignment isn’t a regular experience, and this can negatively impact how you feel, think and interact with others. Something’s always “off.”

There are many energetic ways to change this, and using lavender gems is a gentle, yet powerful practice to help you create greater alignment. Here’s why.

What does it mean to be in alignment?

We all have a special calling. It’s something meant just for you. It’s like having a homework assignment  – except it never feels like homework. It feels energizing.

That’s because when you’re in alignment, your actions and thoughts line up with this inner calling, working together to create an authentic life. But when we live out of alignment, life begins to feel like homework and one tiring, feet-dragging experience.

Why is it difficult to be in alignment with yourself?

In today’s modern world, alignment is challenging. There’s so much pressure to meet lots of different expectations. It’s all very distracting, and instead of focusing on who we are, and what we’re called to do, we make desperate attempts to be like everyone else.

Another reason why alignment is so challenging is that we get stuck in limiting beliefs. And until we heal and release them, it’s hard to live in alignment.

Because this misalignment occurs gradually, it’s hard to notice it. However, when you’re out of alignment, there are some pretty telling signs.

11 signs you’re out of alignment

We humans are very good at adapting – even to pain and discomfort. Therefore, we can live out of alignment for a long time and never even realize it. Do any of these signs sound familiar to you?

If so, there’s a good chance you’re not living in alignment with your true self.

  1. You have a nagging feeling that something’s off
  2. You feel limited, unfulfilled and disconnected
  3. You feel like your past mistakes are what’s holding you back
  4. You don’t have much – or any – direction
  5. You know you’re not living according to your true purpose
  6. You feel like you have stagnant energy inside
  7. You feel fatigued
  8. You experience irregular breathing because of anxiety, anger or stress
  9. You struggle to concentrate because your mind is scattered and distracted
  10. You feel sad or even depressed, especially because you believe you’ve lost something
  11. You feel irritable toward other people

These contrasting feelings are very uncomfortable and as strange as it sounds, that’s a good thing. That’s because your inner wisdom isn’t giving up on you. It wants you to know that you’re out of alignment.

Knowing this wisdom is power. When you know you’re out of alignment, you can take steps to replace disconnection with the connection, dissatisfaction with content, and fatigue with new vim and vigor. That’s where lavender gems come in.

The power of lavender gems for alignment

Lavender(violet) is the color of the crown chakra – your center for deeper connection, not only with the greater Life Force but also with yourself. And lavender is especially indicated for understanding yourself better.

Because lavender helps you become more self-aware, it also helps you to move through life with greater certainty and centeredness.

Lavender gems are multidimensional

Along with aquamarine, citrine, and quartz, lavender gems offer multi-dimensional healing. This means lavender gems are versatile multitaskers that can profoundly influence many areas of your life experience.

Not only can they boost your emotional, mental and spiritual health, but they can also bring more balance and harmony into your life.

Another way lavender supports alignment is by helping you develop greater flexibility and creativity – exactly what you need to get out of a rut, recognize your true self, and live a more authentic life.

4 ways to use lavender gems for greater alignment

Gemstones may be cute and trendy, but they’re powerful conduits for healing. So, it’s always a good idea to approach them with both respect and gratitude. It’s also important to use them correctly so they can support your healing.

Here are four ways to use lavender gems to get back into alignment and be your most authentic self again – or maybe for the first time.

  • Wear lavender gems around your neck

A lavender gem necklace is anything but jewelry. Instead, it’s a powerful tool that quietly works with you, both day and night. If you prefer not to wear it while you sleep, place it near your body. This way, you can still connect to the healing energy of the lavender gems, and deepen your connection with yourself.

  • Wear a lavender gem tisrati

If you need mental clarity, and you’re struggling with both an overactive mind and an unsettled emotional body, a lavender gem tisrati is a powerful tool, too.

If you have a lavender necklace, place it on your head like a crown. This practice helps to increase awareness and support greater alignment.

  • Single gem crown chakra

Even if you don’t have a lavender necklace, you can still use this powerful gemstone. One simple practice is to lie down in the resting yoga pose, Savasana.

While resting, place the lavender gem above your head. Then, picture a white light enveloping you while you meditate on your connection with your innermost self and the Higher Power (or however you identify with the Divine).

  • Lavender clusters

When our living space is messy and full of clutter, it’s hard to think straight. So, you can only imagine how hard it is to experience mental clarity, connection, and insight when the mind is cluttered with negative energy like worry, fear, anger, anxiety and more.

Lavender has the ability to purify and transmute this negative energy. One way you can do that is to create a lavender cluster in your room to neutralize this energy and balance your living space again. It’s like giving your physical space a spiritual tidy up.

Living out of alignment is discouraging, disheartening and tiring. It puts you at odds with yourself and with others. Using lavender gems can gently increase your self-awareness and self-understanding, and help you to create greater alignment.

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9 Female Goddesses to Inspire You to be a Powerful and Loving Woman

For thousands of years, people have turned to mythological and spiritual figures for inspiration and guidance. And even though we are modern people living in the 21st century, the magic and beauty of goddesses is still alluring, uplifting and sometimes even life-changing.

If you’re searching for powerful women to inspire you, here are nine amazing goddesses who provide powerful feminine energy to those who ask. Click on each of their names for an image of the Goddess.

Artemis

Artemis is the Greek goddess of the hunt and moon. So, Artemis is often depicted carrying a bow and arrow, with a crescent moon resting on her head. If you’re searching for something in life, Artemis can help you stay true to your goals and reach them.

But Artemis is so much more than a huntress. She’s also the guardian of the forests, wild places, and women. She can help you navigate even your wildest dreams. After all, she knows the wilderness well.

Bast

Bast is an Egyptian goddess who is usually depicted as a cat, or as a woman with a cat’s head. And while women turn to Bast for many things, she is especially revered as a fertility goddess.

In ancient times, women suffering from fertility problems made offerings to Bast. If you have an affinity for cats and also want to focus on your fertility, Bast may be a good goddess to turn to.

Gaia

Gaia is either the personification of the earth itself or the goddess of the earth. According to Greek mythology, Gaia gave birth to all the gods. And with Gaia, you can see the earth as a nurturing and providing mother instead of an object to exploit.

That’s because Gaia is Mother Earth. Seeing life this way can also help you feel safe, protected and cared for. What’s more, you can draw on Gaia’s strength to tap into your own maternal energy.

Freya

Gracing Norse mythology, Freya is the goddess of love, beauty, sex, and fertility. But what makes Freya special is that she encourages a deep sense of self-awareness in women.

She especially wants you to see the beauty in all things, especially yourself. So, for women who struggle to accept and love themselves, Freya can be both gentle and powerful in guiding them to see their own worth again.

Idun

You’re probably familiar with the Biblical couple, Adam and Eve. But here, we’re talking about Idun and Eve – two women whose story revolves around a special fruit-bearing tree.

Eve ate the forbidden fruit and got cast out of the Garden of Eden. Idun also had a powerful fruit-bearing tree, which offered immortality to those who indulged, and tradition says Idun shared these special fruits with others.

Aging is inevitable, but Idun reminds us that we can retain a youthful spirit and experience fresh renewal anytime. Maybe we just need to trade the mythical apples for Vitamin C-infused oranges and face creams.

Lakshmi

Lakshmi is a Hindu goddess of wealth and prosperity, which is why you may see her with gold coins falling from her fingertips. But Lakshmi isn’t just the goddess of financial and material wealth. She also represents spiritual abundance. Therefore, she’s a wonderful goddess to turn to when you want to overcome scarcity mindset and replace it with a more abundant and grateful spirit.

Ostara

This Germanic spring goddess represents the gentle dawn and fresh beginnings. In fact, her name and symbols, such as eggs and rabbits, were adapted into the Christian feast of Easter. For those women who need support to make it through a dark and difficult time, or for people who need to start over, Ostara can lead the way to where the light and new life is.

Parvarti

Parvarti is one of the many forms of the Hindu deity, Shakti, who represents the feminine energy, infusing all life.

The story of Parvarti is amusing and endearing. This determined and devoted goddess tried many tactics to win Shiva’s love. She even turned to solitude and self-mastery to win him over. Thanks to her steadfast love and devotion, Parvarti eventually earned Shiva’s love and helped him take pleasure in life again.

Therefore, Parvarti can be a wonderful mentor for when we’re having trouble opening ourselves up to the pleasures of life. She can also encourage us to continue to choose love even when it’s not always reciprocated, and when we’re not always rewarded for our efforts.

What’s more, Parvarti reminds us that it takes lots of love and devotion to embark on any spiritual journey and that it may take time for us to reap the rewards of our efforts. But like Parvarti, we can be patient and steadfast, too.

Aphrodite

Last, but certainly not least, this famous goddess needs little introduction. She has been depicted countless times over the centuries, and for good reason. This Greek goddess represents love and beauty. In fact, in Greek mythology, other gods thought her beauty could start wars and rivalries between her many admirers.

So, if you want to be more desirable and attractive, invoke Aphrodite. It’s a good way to own your beauty and sexuality with greater confidence.

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Coping with the Fear of Rejection

The fear of rejection is very real and it’s no wonder why. Rejection hurts. Plain and simple. And it doesn’t matter if it happens at home, at work, or in other social settings. Rejection is painful, and so we avoid it at all costs. After all, who wants to get hurt? But rejection is inevitable, so it’s a good idea to learn how to overcome the fear of rejection and learn to cope with it when it does happen.

The fear of rejection is millions of years old

We all want to belong. But this isn’t anything new. In an article published by the American Psychological Association, entitled, The pain of social rejection, author Kirsten Weir explains, “As clever as human beings are, we rely on social groups for survival. We evolved to live in cooperative societies, and for most of human history, we depended on those groups for our lives. Like hunger or thirst, our need for acceptance emerged as a mechanism for survival.”

Belonging was essential for survival. That means rejection essentially meant death. But a lot has changed over the course of millions of years. So, you might think our need for belonging isn’t as important anymore.

That’s not the case though. While it’s true that we can all live pretty independent lives and survive on our own now, that doesn’t erase millions of years of evolution. We still want to belong, and rejection prevents this from happening. In short, we still need our tribe no matter what form it takes.

In a way, our fear of rejection had an important role to play: it helped to keep us alive. But that only explains why it is part of the human experience – it doesn’t really explain why it hurts so much, does it?

Why does rejection hurt so much?

Rejection hits us on an emotional and psychological level. Or, does it? Recent research has found that the pain of being rejected actually activates the same brain areas that physical pain does.

Kipling Williams, a professor at the Department of Psychological Sciences at Purdue University, researched social rejection in an article called Ostracism. In his study, participants played a game of cyber frisbee with other volunteers as their brains were being scanned. After all three participants played frisbee together, two players eventually started to play by themselves and exclude one player.

Williams and his team observed something fascinating in the brains of people who were excluded and rejected. They saw that the dorsal anterior cingulate, along with the anterior insula became more active.

Why is this important? Because these are the same two brain regions that get activated when you experience physical pain. In short, emotional pain registers in the brain the same way physical pain does.

And this can help to explain why rejection hurts so much, and why we try to avoid it. After all, through trial and error, we learn what causes physical injury – like touching a hot pan, or mishandling a sharp knife – and we avoid these actions as best we can.

So, it’s understandable that as we experience rejection, we start to avoid behaviors that might invite more rejection. But this is a problem. That’s because these same behaviors are exactly what keeps us from living a wholehearted and authentic life.

How do we try to avoid rejection?

To keep rejection from happening again, we develop unhealthy behavior patterns and mindsets. For example, if you were rejected by a lover, you may become pessimistic about ever finding love again. Or, if you do find yourself in a good relationship, you sabotage it because you’re afraid of being rejected by your new partner.

If your experience of rejection started much earlier in life – from a parent, for example – you may have false beliefs about yourself. You might think you’re unworthy of love and attention, or that you don’t deserve friends. And thoughts like this prevent you from attracting love and attention to yourself. This, in turn, creates even more rejection.

Another common rejection scenario is when you share your thoughts or opinions only to get mocked or excluded. If that’s the case, you might hide the true you in order to fit in.

As you can see, if we desperately try to avoid rejection, we actually create more rejection and less belonging.

So, we have to learn to be ourselves, knowing full well that it could end in rejection. But how can you do that?

How to overcome the fear of rejection

As long as people have preferences, people will welcome what they prefer and reject what they don’t. And the truth is, sometimes that means you and me will get rejected. So, how can we continue, full steam ahead, even with the risk of rejection? Here are two tips to cope with our innate fear of rejection.

  1. You don’t have to take rejection personally

In his inspiring book, The Four Agreements, Don Miguel Ruiz, lays out four principles to live by. His second principle is this: Don’t take anything personally.

What does Ruiz mean by this? He teaches that every action that’s directed towards you actually has very little to do with you. In fact, usually, it has nothing to do with you. Instead, it has everything to do with the other person. It has to do with their thoughts, belief system, emotional baggage, personal history and so much more.

And when you apply Ruiz’s principle to rejection, it can transform the entire experience. The truth is, when people reject us, we interpret it as a reflection of our value and our worth.

Rejection doesn’t just mean exclusion. Instead, it means:

  • I’m not lovable
  • I’m not good enough
  • I’m not worthy
  • I’m a loser

But if you don’t take rejection personally, you can see that you were excluded, and continue to believe that you’re lovable, worthy, good enough and anything but a loser.

  1. Rejection might be doing you a favor

This might seem crazy but bear with me. We often think we know what we want and what’s best for us. But that’s not always the case. Instead, and as Gabrielle Bernstein says, “The universe your back.”

But how can rejection be the universe’s way of taking care of you? After all, rejection is painful and makes you feel isolated and alone.

But does it have to?

It’s true: you do get rejected by a group or an individual. But chances are you wouldn’t have been very happy in that group or with that individual anyway.

Therefore, while rejection means you don’t fit into that specific scenario, that doesn’t mean you’re never going to fit anywhere.

Instead, rejection keeps you out of places or situations where you won’t thrive. And it helps you to keep looking for your perfect fit.

Here’s an analogy that might help. There are so many beautiful flowers in our world. And some thrive in the sun; others bloom best in the shade. There are some flowers that need sunny seaside climates, while others can survive the cool temperatures of the snowy Alps.

But you would probably never say that the seaside flower is worthless because it can’t survive in the Alps, or vice versa. So, why should you say that about yourself?

Just because you didn’t “make it” with one crowd or another, doesn’t mean you’re not a beautiful person. It just means, you tried to plant yourself in the wrong garden.

There’s this common saying: Bloom where you’re planted. But let’s take it one step further and infuse it with some powerful intention. Instead, of just blooming where you happen to end up, why not plant yourself where you know you will bloom best?

The payoff for accepting rejection

Even if you don’t take rejection personally, it can still hurt. And even if you compare yourself to a beautiful flower who simply tried to plant herself in the wrong garden, rejection hurts yet again.

So, have you really gained anything? The answer is a resounding yes. There is a payoff when you accept that rejection can and will happen. And here it is:

When you stop running away from rejection, you also stop running away from love, intimacy, and connection. But if you keep trying to avoid rejection, you avoid connecting with others and opening yourself up to love.

In short, we have to be vulnerable. And while that does make it possible for rejection to occur, it also makes it possible for so many other beautiful human connections to occur.

As a research professor and bestselling author, Brené Brown found, the people who allow themselves to be vulnerable also believe “that what made them vulnerable made them beautiful.”

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Flower Essences to Overcome Negative Emotions and Stress

Every spring, Mother Nature goes through an extraordinary transformation. And perhaps one of the most beautiful aspects of springtime is when all the flowers go into bloom.

These blossoms are certainly a sight for sore eyes after a long, cold winter, and they definitely help to lift the spirits. But flowers can also help to overcome negative emotions and stress in other ways, too.

One way is with flower essences  – a simple method that taps into some serious flower power. And what better time to introduce flower essences into your life than during springtime?

What are flower essences?

Flower essences are tinctures. They were developed by a British physician, Dr. Edward Bach in the early 20th century. He believed that disease was the result of negative emotions held within the body. So, he set out to identify the emotional healing power of flowers to help address and overcome this.

That lead to the development of his now-popular Bach Flower Remedies, a collection of 38 flower essences, which are aimed to address negative emotion.

How are flower essences made?

Flower essences are tinctures. The flower, or simply the petals themselves, are placed in a bowl of water. Everything is left to sit as the energy of the flower transfers to the water.

Then, the flowers or petals are removed from the water, and a preservative – usually brandy – is added to turn this flower-infused water into a tincture.

What’s the difference between essential oils and flower essences?

There are many natural remedies to increase wellness, and it’s easy to confuse flower essences with other popular remedies. So, it’s important to remember that flower essences and essential oils are very different things.

The biggest difference is that flower essences focus on the vibrational energy of the flower, whereas essential oils tap into the actual physical properties of the plant’s oil.

Another big difference is that essential oils are fragrant substances and one reason why they’re commonly used in aromatherapy. Flower essences, on the other hand, are fragrance-free.

How to use flower essences

Flower essences are used to help heal negative emotions and stress. But this isn’t a one-size-fits-all approach.

It’s easy to simply identify stress as just stress. And if we’re experiencing a negative emotion, we don’t tend to dive very deep to identify exactly what we’re feeling.

We usually stop at, “I’m stressed”, or with other vague statements. But there are many different types of negative emotions. And knowing which one you’re experiencing is key to using flower essences effectively.

In fact, each of the 38 flower essences is meant to address a specific negative emotion and type of stress.

So, the first and most important thing to do before taking a flower essence is to become self-aware. This allows you to dig deep and uncover what you’re feeling and why.

You can become more aware of your negative emotions by asking the following questions:

  • How am I reacting to this situation or thought?
  • What is causing me to react this way? (Fear, worry, anger, guilt, insecurity, etc.)

To help you identify with your emotions, it might help to journal or talk about it with a close and trusted friend, or coach.

Once you explore your emotional experience, you can look for the flower essence(s) that best support your current emotional need.

For example, Stephanie Gailing, a flower essence therapist, and astrologer shares that stress occurs because you lack confidence and don’t trust your abilities, leading to overall feelings of insecurity. In this case, a good match would likely be the flower essence of larch.

Similarly, if you’re impatient, rushed or a bit impulsive, the appropriately-named essence of impatiens can help.

Flower essences for specific stress and negative emotions

Perhaps one of the most challenging things about experiencing stress and negative emotions is the fear that no one understands you. But once you get to know flower essences, it will seem like they’re made with you in mind.

To give you an idea of just how specific they can be, here’s a brief introduction to flower essences that may support emotional well-being.

  • Elm: When you feel overwhelmed by your responsibilities
  • Beech: When you’re overly critical and judgmental and don’t tolerate others and yourself
  • Cherry Plum: When you’re afraid to lose control, and even experience suicidal ideation
  • Hornbeam: When you’re mentally fatigued and tend to procrastinate
  • White Chestnut: When you have too many thoughts running through your brain
  • Willow: When you’re feeling resentful and bitter

Even though it’s great that there are 38 specific flower essences – each for a specific type of negative emotion and stress – let’s face it. When you’re feeling down, it can be difficult to analyze your feelings objectively.

Therefore, if the stress and negative emotion are overwhelming, and you just want support and relief, look no further than a flower essence blend called “Rescue Remedy”.

It’s a mix of rock rose, impatiens, clematis, star-of-Bethlehem and cherry plum. This careful blend can support you in restoring emotional balance so that you can make a more specific flower essence choice later on – if you want.

How to take flower essences

When it comes to taking flower essences, you can either apply them directly to your skin or dilute them first.

If you chose to dilute them, add two drops of the flower essence into a glass of water and sip throughout the day. If you’re choosing multiple flower essences, you can mix up to seven or eight flower essences together in the same glass.

If you don’t finish the glass by the end of the day, you can place it in the refrigerator to save for the following day. Or, you can also make smaller dilutions to ensure that you finish them by the end of the day.

How many times should you sip it? Four to six times per day is usually a good place to start.

You can also take your flower essence straight, without any dilution, simply by dropping the tincture into your mouth. It may taste strongly of alcohol, but it works just as effectively as when you dilute the flower essence and take them that way.

If you have an alcohol sensitivity, it’s possible to find alcohol-free flower essences, so you can tap into some gentle flower power without any discomfort.

Flower essences are a wonderful way to invite Mother Nature’s healing touch into your daily life. They’re a gentle and safe way to address negativity and stress and to support emotional wellbeing.

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