After someone commits suicide, the people left behind face incredible challenges. Along with feeling immense grief, they can feel guilty for not being able to prevent the suicide. Feelings of anger and confusion are compounded by the intense fear and worry about the loved one’s soul: what will happen to them?
It’s easy to feel completely helpless when someone commits suicide. But did you know you can support the soul of someone who ends their earth experience?
This spiritual guide can help both you and the soul of someone who commits suicide.
Why it’s important to not get stuck in the past
Suicide prevention is an important and necessary topic. However, suicide prevention is an irrelevant discussion when someone commits suicide. When we focus on prevention, we get stuck in the past, and that’s a dangerous trap because:
- We feel guilty
- We feel regret
- Our thoughts focus on “I should have…” and “If only I would have…”
These are all natural responses after a suicide, but none of them help us – or the loved one’s soul – to heal and move forward. Instead, they can actually increase the soul’s suffering after suicide.
This is especially true if we remember that it can be difficult for someone to cross over after ending their earth experience.
Why is it difficult for souls to cross over after suicide?
After a suicide, the individual spirit doesn’t always cross over into love and light right away. Sometimes, they linger near earth, and some may even attend their own funeral.
Here are some reasons why souls may linger near earth after ending their earth experience.
They feel shock
Even though many commit suicide to seek relief from suffering, they don’t always find it after death. Suicide isn’t just a shock for the people they leave behind.
It can be a shock for these souls, too. They may not feel comfortable in the next realm of experience, and for this reason, they may want to stay near earth until they can accept their decision.
They feel regret
When we are alive in our physical bodies, we have responsibilities toward others. These responsibilities don’t go away when we leave the earthly experience. They just change, and souls who choose suicide become aware of this.
They may not be able to forgive themselves for the choice they made. In fact, many regret it immediately, only to realize it’s too late to come back. For this reason, they may be very hard on themselves and level some pretty harsh judgment on themselves.
They are stuck in the negative energy
After death, these souls can experience negative energy like angry, embarrassed, guilty and even fear. This can be especially true for people who don’t believe in a higher energy or the after lie.
Often, they are stuck until they can clear away their negative energy and thoughts. But don’t worry, they are never alone – angels and spirit guides are always there to care for them.
They have lessons to learn
The souls of people who end their earthly experience may have unfinished business. For some, this means giving their loved ones messages. Higher energy beings may also need to help them grow in love and learn the necessary lessons before they cross over.
These are some of the common reasons why it’s hard for souls to cross over into love and light. So, one of the most important things we can do to support someone who commits suicide is to help them cross over.
How to help someone cross over after suicide
Souls after suicide often need your love and support more than ever before. Therefore, even though you are grieving, confused and shocked at their death, remember that they may still be suffering and that you can play a big role in lifting their suffering.
And something beautiful to consider is that in helping them, you can also lift your own feelings of sorrow and grief.
Reassure them that you’re okay
They may feel guilty for hurting you and leaving you behind. Even in suicide notes, individuals often apologize for what they’re about to do, and that they never intended to hurt you. So, if you feel abandoned, let them know that you will be okay.
You may be angry at them for leaving you. But try to remember that this negative energy won’t serve you or them. By forgiving and reassuring them, you can ease their guilt, and give them permission to cross over.
Tell them you still love them
Those who choose suicide may have struggled with self-love and self-acceptance during their earthly life. These struggles don’t disappear after suicide.
Therefore, let them know you love and care for them. Reassure them that you want them to experience love and peace and that it’s okay for them to cross over and finally experience the love and peace they’ve been searching for.
Remind them that love is waiting for them
Old belief systems would have us believe that someone who commits suicide faces damnation and judgment. However, this is not the experience of those who end their earthly life experience.
Someone who commits suicide may feel guilty and ashamed of what they did. They can also be afraid to cross over – not sure of what they’ll find there. You can remind them that love – and only love – is waiting for them.
Communicate with your loved one
When someone ends his or her earthly experience, it’s easy to think they’re gone for good. However, we are all deathless beings of love and light, and our physical bodies are only one phase of our existence. Even though they end their earthly experience, this doesn’t mean they are gone for good.
So, if you have something you want to say, don’t be afraid to speak to them. This can be a great source of relief for both you and the soul.
Here’s a review of how you can help someone cross over into love and light after suicide:
- Reassure them that you’re okay
- Let them know it’s okay to cross over
- Forgive them and let them know they can forgive themselves, too
- Tell them you (and many other people) still love them
- Reassure them that love is waiting for them
- Remind them to love themselves
- Communicate with them
- Ask angels and guides for support
It is impossible for us to know the suffering someone experiences before they commit suicide. And although it is a final decision to end their earthly experience, their existence doesn’t end with suicide.
Instead, they continue on their path toward love and light. And you can play a very important role in helping them cross over into this love and light.
If you know someone who is at risk for suicide try to make sure they have the hotline to talk with someone anytime day or night.