7 Worst Questions To Ask During a Tarot Reading
You might be tempted to ask the following questions in tarot, and it’s no wonder. It can be a big relief to get answers to these kinds of worries and concerns. But as you’ll see, it’s unlikely that they’ll provide the clarity you’re looking for.
1. What Will My Love Life Be Like In The Future?
Some tarot readers offer future prediction readings, but you want to avoid this for your love life.
The truth is, how your future love life looks will depend entirely on the decisions you make and the actions you take from now until whenever your romance unfolds. You are a co-creator with the universe, but this question puts you in the passenger seat. You belong in the driver’s seat!
2. Will I Ever Find “The One”?
The reason why you want to avoid this question is similar to the ideas we explored above. Tarot can’t predict something for you. But it can offer present-moment guidance that you can start implementing ASAP.
In contrast, if tarot told you: “Yes, you will find a partner,” would that motivate you to change anything about your current life? Maybe not. Instead, it’s possible you’d sit back and relax, and wait for love to find you. On the flip side, what if tarot told you: “No, you won’t ever find a partner,” how would that impact the choices you make?
Either way, these kinds of yes or no questions aren’t very helpful. Try to ask how you can bring “the one” into your life. Or, what you can do to create space for him or her.
3. Will I Ever Feel Better/Differently/Happy?
The answer to this question – whether it’s a Yes or No – can make you the passive observer of your life, not an active participant in it.
Since you already know you WANT to feel better/differently/happy, why not ask tarot HOW you can start to experience these emotions?
Reframing your question encourages faith in the possibility of feeling better. It also empowers you to take action and gives you a sense of confidence and ownership about what happens in your life. Finally, the tarot’s guidance can help you experience emotional relief.
4. Will I Have Problems In The Days/Months/Years Ahead?
A problem-free future is appealing, but as long as we’re humans living on earth, problems are part of the journey. So, these questions have an obvious answer: Yes.
Instead of asking this question, how can you reframe it? If you’re worried about future problems, which ones? How can you better prepare for them?
You can also start to reframe problems themselves. For example, what if problems were really challenging to help you grow? Or, lessons to teach you something?
Learning to look at “problems” differently is a clever way to eliminate them from your future. You might find you’re more open to them because they’re actually “challenges” or “lessons.” Then, when the challenges arise, you can always ask tarot how to navigate them.
One of the easiest ways to avoid asking bad questions in tarot is to simply reframe how you’re asking them. For example, instead of asking a simple Yes or No question, start your question with phrases like:
- What do I need to know about [x]?
- What am I missing about[x]?
- What can I expect to experience if I choose [x, y, or z]?
This simple reframe totally shifts the energy of your reading and empowers you to move forward.
5. When Will I Die?
Remember, tarot isn’t a prediction tool; it’s a guidance tool. Consider that it would be more interesting to know how to live life to the fullest and learn the lessons your soul came here to learn, not when you’re going to die.
Instead of asking when you’ll die, why not ask how to be fully alive, integrated, and in alignment with your highest self?
6. Will [Name] Do [X, Y, Or Z]?
Here’s how this question can look in real life:
- Will my lover leave his partner for me?
- Will my boss give me a raise?
- Will my partner change for me?
- Will my daughter make this career choice?
These types of questions are problematic for two primary reasons. First, they ask the tarot to make predictions about someone else, and that person isn’t you. Tarot can only give you guidance for yourself, but it cannot prescribe other people’s actions.
The other issue here is that these questions cannot take the other person’s perspective into consideration. So, always try to keep your questions about you and the actions you can take in your life.
7. Diagnostic And/Or Medical Questions
Health problems can be scary, and we may turn to tarot for reassurance and support. But remember: tarot cards are not health experts or professionals. So, try to avoid asking for diagnostic or medical answers here.
Instead, consider asking tarot how you can create strategies to improve your current health situation. What do you need to know to usher in healing? Who do you need to meet to experience full healing?
7 Best Questions To Ask During a Tarot Reading
Are you ready to get the most out of your tarot readings? The following questions can help you make the best decisions and take focused action to improve your situation.
As we’ve seen, open-ended questions are better than Yes or No questions because they open the gates to explore your options, while providing personal and specific guidance, too.
You’ll notice that the best questions place the focus on you, not other people, which gives you a special sense of responsibility and the empowerment to take action.
Remember, you have lots of choices available to you, and tarot guides you towards the most aligning outcome.
Let’s dive in.
1. Which Hidden Part Of Myself Do I Need To See In Order To See A Lesson Or Challenge That’s Especially For Me?
Sometimes, hidden parts of ourselves reveal themselves as triggers. So, if you keep brushing off a trigger, tarot might have something to say about that. The same is true of our shadow.
Sometimes, our shadows aren’t fully integrated and can block us from living to our highest potential. Is there an aspect of your shadow that you don’t want to face? Tarot might be able to show you.
2. What Are My Strengths, And How Can I Optimize Them? What Are My Weaknesses, And How Can I Improve Them?
Both questions are open-ended, and they give you an opportunity to know yourself on a deeper level and become integrated and authentic. In today’s day and age, there’s so much pressure to be like other people, but doing so is a disservice to your own unique gifts. Turning to tarot for guidance can remind you of what your talents are and what you need to nurture and cultivate.
3. What Blocks Are Keeping Me From Giving And Receiving Love Freely?
Remember, the best tarot questions are centered entirely around you and the actions you can take, or the mindsets you can shift. Tarot can help you unblock love and start to experience belonging, connection, and worth, both within and without.
4. What Is My Partner Mirroring Back To Me That I Don’T Want To See Or Take Ownership Of?
It’s easy to fall into a default dynamic that asks: What can I get out of this relationship? Asking the above question can shift this dynamic, and help you uncover the lessons you’re meant to learn from the relationship. Or, what you’re meant to contribute.
Another reason why this is a powerful question is that people project back to us the limiting beliefs we still need to reprogram in the subconscious mind.
So, your partner may be mirroring unworthiness, lack mentality, or shame issues, and tarot can help you uncover this.
5. What Can You Tell Me About My Career?
This is another great open-ended question because it invites tarot to do what tarot does best: tell stories. Sure, it’s tempting to go to tarot for quick a Yes or No clarification. But tarot shines when it can tell a narrative that you can then integrate into your life.
When it comes to career, tarot can show you where you can grow, what you’ve outgrown, what strengths you should play up, and which weakness you need to focus on.
6. What Can I Do To Improve My Relationship With [X]?
Notice that this question doesn’t place blame or shame on someone else. It gives you an opportunity to focus on yourself and your actions. This is not a moment to shame or blame yourself. It’s also not the time to figure out how you’re going to fix everything.
Sometimes, in order to improve a relationship, it’s about setting up healthy boundaries, offering your gifts, creating space, or leaning in closer. It will all depend on your unique situation and the message tarot has for you.
7. What Role Do I Play In [X]’S Situation/Life?
Whether it’s a toxic situation at work, a challenging family member, or an exciting new collaboration, it’s always helpful to turn to tarot and listen to its guidance about your role. Again, tarot won’t tell you what to do, but it might inspire you as to HOW you can navigate the situation.
We turn to tarot for elucidation, guidance, and encouragement. And you can receive this – and so much more – by asking the right question. When you have your next reading, be sure to avoid the worst questions we covered, and wherever possible, reframe them with a simple rephrasing.
When you prepare your questions, ask yourself: Will the answer to my question help me grow, improve, and become my highest self? If the answer is yes, they’re worth asking. They let tarot to do what tarot does best: to give guidance so you can follow your soul’s true path. It’s a win-win!